15 Mar 2017
INTRO TO TANTRA
Originally created for my 9 to 5 job in the Sexual Health & Wellness arena at Fantasy Gifts.
When couples are seeking to take their relationship to a new level, and if they are both open to an exchange of energy and intimacy, it can strengthen their bond or emotional connection. You don’t have to be a sex guru or new age all star to benefit from the Eastern practice of Tantric Yoga. It is as simple as adding a few new exercises. It also teaches orgasm control and ways to help each other receive more pleasure – it’s a win – win in our book!
Sacred space. To get started, you will need to set the setting and space. Set aside uninterrupted time in a place that both of you feel safe and comfortable in. The bedroom is the perfect place to become your “Temple”. If you have small children you may want to look into getting a hotel for the evening or sitter. That way you can able to totally dedicate this time for just you and your partner.
Cleanse the body and the mind. Take a steamy bath together to start the evening. Being clean gives confidence and makes sure the setting is free of embarrassing odors. Use a pheromone bubble bath to inspire the moment. Pamper and wash each other, paying special attention to all of the intimate, erogenous areas. Add candles around the tub for ambiance, add light music and let each other relax.
You may be tempted to fool around in the tub, but the idea here is to relax and let go of all the daily stress and focus on the moment that is about to take place. Make sure you keep the bathroom warm if it’s winter time and cool in the summer. At the end finish it off by drying your partners body with a fluffy towel and wrapping them in a robe or body towel.
Ease into it. Don’t be afraid to experiment. Start by using sensual body oils and candles and give each other a massage. Learn more. Dare to playfully experiment with different techniques or positions. Changing the angle may just be the thing to heighten sexual pleasure. We suggest picking up the Kama Sutra or visiting KamaDay website for some suggestions on getting out of the box with sexual positions. If one of you have health issues that limit you from being able to stay in these positions for long periods of time, switch it up or get body positioning furniture like the Liberator wedge.
Relax and breathe. Begin to relax by breathing deep and slow. We get in the habit of taking quick breaths. Slow breathing is the key to orgasmic pleasure for women and to lasting longer for men. Learning new, simple ways of breathing are essential to a yogic practice. Breathing deeply into your belly increases relaxation, decreases tension and stress, helps put more of a focus on pleasure and brings more oxygen into your blood stream. Oxygen is what delivers the ‘O’ in Orgasm.
Breathing techniques are utilized in all forms of yoga, meditation, Taoist and Tantric practices and even health activities like exercise and blood pressure reduction. For instance, did you know that you can easily lower your blood pressure by calmly breathing into your belly through your nose and out through your mouth?
“The single most important key to sex that I’ve yet discovered is conscious rhythmic breathing; the more you breathe the more you feel and the more you come alive. Many of us breathe only enough to survive but not to live fully. Deep breathing is a door to waking up to healing and to more personal freedom.”
— Annie Sprinkle, PhD., Tantrica & Ex-Porn Star
Stare into each other. They say that the eyes are the window to the soul. When we look into each others eyes we give the sense of pure trust in each other. The magnetic and intense stare of a lover will automatically heighten your senses. This is a sure fire way to make sure that there is a lock of intimacy with each other.
Awaken touch. Take a flower, massage glove or a feather and gently stroke each other’s bodies. Start with the face, neck, chest, breasts, stomach, ribs, and inner thighs before making your way down to the genital area. Repeat delicate, circular motions over these areas. Bodies respond to a light touch. Let go. Embrace the sensation of exploring each other’s body.
Awaken taste. Use a flavored lubricant or edible body paints for basic oral pleasure. Select a few foods, herbs, or spices that have zing. Arrange them on a plate. To heighten your sense of taste, I suggest wearing an eye mask or a loose blindfold, perhaps made from a silk scarf. There is nothing like the sensation of the unknown to bring your lover into his or her body. While the eyes are covered, offer each selection one by one. Slowly play with mouth, lips, tongue and tease your lover with the food. If you are feeling frisky you can share. Lick, kiss or eat the food off of their body to add to the feeling of sharing the experience and enjoying the moment.
Awaken smell. Now, explore smell. It is an intimate and important part of sexual energy, one that can turn you off or on. Let a blindfold accentuate your exploration of this sense. Test out various scents. See how your body responds to the aromas of different herbs, oils, or perfumes. Use body shimmer spray to add a mystical glow. Use them as a sensual refresher. Spray the sheets with pheromone spray, use a dusting powder or lotions or intimate wash for your lingerie.
Play with movement and rocking. Rock the body in divine unity. When you move your bodies together you will build sexual energy. Holding each other can be extremely sensual. Also, when you first see each other after being apart, a long, silent embrace or hug combined with rocking is arousing. Dancing together or getting funky with spontaneous free-form movements can enhance and draw energy to each other.
Tune in to nature. Sex in nature, rain, on a sunny private cove in nature can be a freeing experience. If you aren’t the exhibitionist or outdoorsy type then using music or sounds of thunderstorms, ocean waves, winds or light sounding instruments can give the illusion that you are in another world. Some people like tribal drumming or ethnic music to create the right environment or escape. Having videos or imagery of nature, waterfalls, thunderstorms, rainbows or psychedelic imagery in the background can also set the mood. Let them arouse your body. Be aware of colors, textures, sounds. They have an effect on the psyche.
This exercise intensifies your own sexual energy and the erotic relationship between you and your partner. Exploring each other is never just a one-time event. Keep discovering the nuances of each other’s sensitivity and aesthetics. Experiment with what gives you both goose bumps, tingles, or surges of warmth. Notice how your body feels, all of it. This lets you experience more pleasure and intimacy.